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Confessions of a travel Pollyanna

February 21, 2012 in Boomers, Living, Travel, Uncategorized

My name is Dena and I am a plane-o-phile.  No, there is no ten-step program to rid myself of this pleasant addiction.  To me, the anticipation of air travel means more than reaching a destination. It’s the experience that still thrills me.

Aside from the giddiness I feel at takeoff, seeing objects below get smaller and eventually disappear (okay, I am the person who interrupts any conversation with the stranger next to me to press her nose against the tiny window to feel the enormous piece of gadgetry in which I am contained lift itself off the ground), I still marvel at how quickly commercial airlines can get us places in an incredibly short period of time.  You need not think of me as an octogenarian. I am merely the chick who is in the habit of adding up where we have come from in order to appreciate where we are. Five and a half hours to New York?  Four to Hawaii? Eat dinner, watch a movie, take a nap and you’re in Europe? What’s not to appreciate, when countless decades of travelers faced days, months and even years to get somewhere?

Air travel was once considered a glamorous experience, first class or coach. There was no point in shopping around for the best deal, because airfares were controlled by regulation. Travel agents regularly booked air travel for you, especially if you traveled on business, since the airlines all gave them a commission for doing so. If a roundtrip ticket between San Francisco and New York was $249 on one airline, it was the same on all the rest who flew that route, making them vie for your business by touting the superior service they offered.  That means there were more airlines giving you more choices and planes need not be full to make an airline profitable. Before such intense security concerns transformed airports, there were even observation decks where you were allowed to watch planes come and go in an elevated, fresh-air location. Flight attendants, both male and female, were decked out in snappy uniforms, slender enough to navigate aisles without having to even think about it, food was served free, and coats were taken from you and hung in closets.

With the huge changes that have taken place within the airline industry since then, all I hear are complaints. And while I lament the loss of travel-ease, comfort, better service and choice of carriers, I still think air travel is miraculous. When we can catch up with the rest of the industrialized world and bullet trains become another viable means of transportation within this beautiful country of ours, I will become slack-jawed once again.  I guess I am a product of all those futuristic films they used to show us in elementary school, where actors would touch buttons that would drive cars and cook food (much of which has actually come true). For me, to jump on a train in San Francisco and end up in LA just two and a half hours later will surely knock my proverbial socks off and give me even more choices than I have now.

Am I a bit simplistic?  Perhaps.  I believe in the ingenuity of the human spirit to better our lives as long as we can all see the vision and get out of our own ways to make it come true. And since I have but one time to go around, I suppose I am a bit selfish and want it all now. But even if it does not all come to pass, I know I am living in an amazing era, where diseases can be eradicated and where home entertainment has become an art form. It’s also a time when I can order merchandise from my smart phone, whose technology hardware once took up an entire room, and even better, from a desktop computer from which I can tap out my blog, hit the “publish” button, and make it available to millions of readers.  I am still flying high and I hope I never come down.

Revisiting Gratitude

February 21, 2012 in Family

Nearly seven years ago, I fell asleep at the wheel of my truck. The resulting accident – with the cruise control set at 72 mph – should have killed me, or worse. I walked away with nary a meaningful scratch as did my dog, who was thrown from the vehicle when we veered off the highway. As I drive that same route regularly, a recent visit to the crash site made me reflect on how lucky I was then and how lucky I am now.

Perspective is something that allows us to appreciate our lives, our families, and our country. The accident occurred in June 2005. I was grateful then and have been living a life of gratitude almost ever since. Let’s take a look at that story with some excerpts from what I wrote shortly afterwards (italicized):

Driving alone on 395, I fell asleep at the wheel. Startled awake as the car drove screamingly over the shoulder, I grabbed the wheel and holding on for dear life, tried desperately to control the swerving bucking SUV. The car crashed through a barbed wire barrier and headed down into a river wash. Over boulders the size of large beach balls, the car literally flew nose-first into the wash. The momentum carried the car into a front side flip, spiraling over once or twice, landing right side up, and facing the opposite direction.

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Modern Families

February 20, 2012 in Family

I have this thing about my teeth. When I was growing up, our town didn’t have a real dentist, The young man performing dental work, had learn from his father. Whatever he did, was always without anesthetic, no laughing gas, no Novocain…he strapped you in and you got to exercise your vocal cords.

When I came to The States and discovered the way it is supposed to work, I was ecstatic. You’ll never hear me complain about going to the dentist. Because of the experiences from my youth, I’m a little obsessed with prevention.At some point I was getting my teeth cleaned every four months. I didn’t see the dentist often but got very chummy with the hygienist. One day, the dentist called me into his office and explained that while they would happily take my money every four months, it wasn’t necessary, six months between cleaning would be fine. Now I see the hygienist every six months and that means we have to talk faster to catch up with all that happened in between cleanings. She does the talking, I can’t. My mouth must stay open with that sucking thing hanging on one side of the lips, but I’ve learn to express my dis/approval through my eyes. We get along royally.

My last visit was just before Christmas. Tracy had a happy glow about her, the one pregnant women often exude. I knew that wasn’t the case, because she already has 4 kids and last time I asked, no husband. Okay, I know, you can have more than 4 kids and you don’t need a husband.

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3 Simple Steps to a Successful Valentine’s Day

February 8, 2012 in Relationships

If you forgot to buy or you are stressed about buying a Valentine’s Day gift and you are on a budget, read this.

First, buy 3 Valentine’s Day cards, not all the same, pick them different. You can find a good selection at discount stores in your area for $0.99 each if you are really broke.

1. Write I        on card #1
2. Write Love on card #2
3. Write You on card #3

Then spend $25 on movie money, you can get it them on line, just go to the website of the Theatre/Movie company in your area. Some businesses offer a voucher for medium popcorn if you spend $25 or more.

Insert the movie money gift card in the first envelope.  The popcorn voucher in the second. Pick the movie you want to see with your Valentine, cut out the ad from a newspaper and insert that along with the last envelope/card.

Voila, my friend. Instant Valentine’s gift that will make both your Valentine and you happy!